壓力好大, 好唔開心.....

係我自己既問題.....

我自細都唔係好識講野, 搞到平時都唔係太出聲, 除非係要到
我出聲, 否則我可以o係公司成日唔開口講一句野.....

我自問自己雖然係少出聲, 又無話題, 但講野態度唔算太差, 只
係自信心唔夠同埋組織能力較弱, 但唔知點解, o的同事好似唔
係好鍾意同我講野, 一係好似怕左我咁,一係對我唔太友善咁,
就算係我提出既野同另一位同事 (同直屬上司較友好)一樣, 直
屬上司也只會聽其他同事而唔會聽我的, 搞到我依家都唔係好
想提自己意見, 但咁又比直屬上司話我無主見, 乜都要follow 佢,
真係唔知點算...

依家我每日返到公司都好down, 無乜笑容(除左同客講電話果時
之外), 好似有幅好厚既圍牆保護緊自己一樣.

我知自己有好多缺點, 好似做野大意, 成日做錯野, 講錯說話,
又唔係好 update 自己, 好似成班同事講/玩 PSP, 我自己唔好呢
味野, 無話題可說.

我究竟除左走之外, 有乜方法解決?

首先講聲唔好意思先....

呢篇文見到幾日，
一直都好想回，
但係諗唔到應該點樣講....

嗯...
我諗你的問題應該係自信心太唔夠喇....
當你有自己的意見的時候，
應該試下多一點表達，
你唔講，人地又點知你有你的想法、主見呢?

其次，我諗你真係好需要學下現在你的同事的話題物品...
你未必好呢家野，
但係人地就算想加埋你一齊講，
你都無野可以講，
咁又點樣二分俾個機會其他人去了解你呢?

而且，你返到工可以唔講野，
如果你係自己的同事的話，
你會點樣睇呢個人呢?
你會希望佢可以點樣呢?

走其實唔係問題，
最弊係，驚你走到去第二個地方的時候，
都遇上相同的問題....

多謝你的回應.

我都覺得係我自信心唔夠, 但我成日犯錯,比
同事成日話我, 又成日同同事夾唔來(工作上
有時會嗌交), 搞到好似比人感覺好似唔係好
做得野咁 (好似細路咁教訓我). 我自己都好
似覺得自己對公司無乜貢獻.

話題方面, 我都間中會去update 自己, 但我唔
係好敢出聲, 因為我怕比人笑我土.

真係好 DOWN.

[ref=397415]peterkwan[/ref]  在 19.10.2005 13:52 發表:
多謝你的回應.

我都覺得係我自信心唔夠, 但我成日犯錯,比
同事成日話我, 又成日同同事夾唔來(工作上
有時會嗌交), 搞到好似比人感覺好似唔係好
做得野咁 (好似細路咁教訓我). 我自己都好
似覺得自己對公司無乜貢獻.

話題方面, 我都間中會去update 自己, 但我唔
係好敢出聲, 因為我怕比人笑我土.

真係好 DOWN.

可唔可以講下平時做野係點樣犯錯法呀?
可唔可以試一試形容自己的性格呢?

我諗你既然都會update一下自己，
可以試下講佢地講的話題呀...

唔試又點會知道自己得呢?

[ref=395437]peterkwan[/ref]  在 2005-10-16 10:39 PM 發表:

係我自己既問題.....

我自細都唔係好識講野, 搞到平時都唔係太出聲, 除非係要到
我出聲, 否則我可以o係公司成日唔開口講一句野.....

我自問自己雖然係少出聲, 又無話題, 但講野態度唔算太差, 只
係自信心 ...

你的情況和我一樣，我公司的同事都不太喜歡和我傾計，可否有他們年紀大，結哂婚，更有自已的仔女。而個兩位年青女同事，除了談公事外，她們的私事都不向我透露半句。不過算啦，我自已都做了1年4個月，我的工作不會做一世，下年我都走lu。希望在新工作或新學期和一些啱傾的男女朋友做friends。畢竟我公司都是少同事。

我返工是為了賺人工，雖然不太多工作，但是只要賺回學費和這幾年的生活費就夠啦...#???

[ Last edited by simon12 on 2005-10-21 at 12:35 ]

[ref=399115]simon12[/ref]  在 2005-10-21 12:33 PM 發表:



你的情況和我一樣，我公司的同事都不太喜歡和我傾計，可否有他們年紀大，結哂婚，更有自已的仔女。而個兩位年青女同事，除了談公事外，她們的私事都不向我透露半句。不過算啦，我自已都做了1年4個月，我的工作 ...

其實大家同事之間講私事都唔係乜野都可以講
視乎大家熟悉程度
以及相處之間o既感覺

其實你可以向你o的女同事講下自己野
睇下佢地有冇興趣聽
若果你成日剩係問佢地私人野
令人覺得你係似私家偵探,梗係同你傾計時有顧忌啦

[ref=399132]bigfish_hk2[/ref]  在 21.10.2005 13:00 發表:
其實大家同事之間講私事都唔係乜野都可以講
視乎大家熟悉程度
以及相處之間o既感覺

其實你可以向你o的女同事講下自己野
睇下佢地有冇興趣聽
若果你成日剩係問佢地私人野
令人覺得你係似私家偵探,梗係同你傾計時有顧忌啦

I appreciate this point very much....

Whether you are looking to be a caring person or just another snoopy guy,
that would make a great difference.
When you keep asking others about their personal matters,
while you are not giving an impression that you are willing to talk something about yourself.
Or even worse, if you have already given an impression that you guys are not in tune with each other, then why should others bother to talk to you?

Perhaps this is one point that Simon12 has never noticed,
that even when it comes to chatting in the forum,
I don't really feel good because I find too many contradictory statements that he has made,
and keeps focusing on points that are actually not central...

Further, also notice the point that it would make yourself looking to be snoopy if you really keep asking others about the things around them, but not really providing any in return.

Silent is a problem, but don't know what should be said at a certain time is another, yet perhaps, more serious, problem.

Perhaps we should have deeper thoughts about this bit as well.

其實係你自己收埋自己姐,
衰D講,同事又唔係同你有親,唔會無啦啦撩你講野,
要你自己埋堆架,人地唔想同你講野,怕左你或者對你態度差
唔代表人唔鍾意你,人地都唔熟你,點知你份人點,
你咁Cool,係人都見到你都怕或者有人覺得你扮高鬥
唔岩話題,傾傾下咪岩囉,你唔試又點知?

你話你自己成日講錯野,大頭蝦,邊個無試過姐,
知道下次唔做錯咪得囉,日日番到公司好似成村人得罪你咁
你話邊有人敢同你講野?


拎D自信出黎啦